This blog post has been months in the making, and I don’t say that as a good thing. My last post was in May, and I have thought about writing something countless times since then. At various points – inevitably when I haven’t been at a computer – I’ve thought through the points I want to make, things I should link to, etc., but I’ve barely made any productive notes other than saving a couple of articles.
Many times, I’ve thought, “OK, tonight is when I’m going to sit down and write” … not so much. I get tired. I get distracted. A lot of the time, after being at my desk at the office all day, sitting down in front of a computer is the last thing I want to do (but somehow I still manage to look at my phone more than I should on those nights).
I try to give myself some grace. I have a full-time job and a full-time family, and the combination can be a lot to deal with at times. The key qualifier there is “at times” – have I really had good excuses for more than half a year?
Of course not. And in the words of Jason Dean, “Everybody’s life has got static. Is your life perfect?”
In other words, I’m no different from anyone else. My challenges are not special. My struggles to do what I know I should do (like write blog posts) are not unique. No one really cares how busy I am or how tired I am because they’re busy and tired, too.
A couple of months ago in my Sunday school class, we spent some time discussing what makes a Christian different, and how we can attract other people to follow Jesus Christ.
(I say “Jesus Christ” there with some purpose, because something else I’ve discussed with people recently has been how the vague notion of a capital-G “God” has a certain level of casual acceptance in the U.S. – God Bless America, In God We Trust, “Oh my God”, etc. – but if you start talking about how you follow Jesus, that’s when people tend to react more strongly, either positively or negatively. There is indeed power in the name.)
One Sunday we focused on the fact that becoming a Christian should lead to changes in your life. I should be able to point to how I live my life differently now compared to how I lived when I was not a Christian. Hence the title of this post, which also happens to be the name of a very good R.E.M. song (from an underrated and often overlooked album).
Life and how to live it. What an enormous topic. I think the size of it has been part of the reason I’ve struggled to finish this post (which I started in September). Feelings of inadequacy start to creep in: “What could I possibly contribute on this topic? There are so many people out there who are smarter than me, who are wiser than me, who know more about the Bible than I do, who have written entire books on this kind of thing, etc. Why should I bother?”
I’ve also been having a hard time with living life. I can feel sorry for myself or put-upon, to the point that when I have some free time, I can be defiant about using it to do absolutely nothing (because, you know, I’ve been working so hard at everything).
December is a hard month for me anyway. The reduced amount of daylight messes with my mood and mental health, and all the fun of the Christmas season (which I wrote about here) gets overwhelming – to the point where I just want to withdraw completely and do nothing. Sense a theme here? I fall into the Peter Gibbons rut, when he thought about what he would do if he had a million dollars: “I would do nothing.” Or my thoughts can really start running wild and to some dark places if I’m not careful. And I can end up feeling hopeless like this guy (and really, sometimes eating does help. I like Snickers, but not as much as I like Baby Ruth bars).
So, yeah, I’ve been having a hard time. And again, that keeps me from writing. The feeling keeps creeping in whenever I think about the blog: Why should I try to write something for other people when I can’t even handle my own business?
Well, if I go back to my very first post, I felt called by God to do this. And lately I haven’t been doing it. Disobedience. Not good. But now I’m writing this post. Obedience. Better. How many Christian bloggers are out there already? I don’t know, but I need to add my voice. As far as my life and how to live it, this blog is one way I try to be different.
There are plenty of other ways. A non-exhaustive list:
1. Treat people differently, by loving them as God loves me.
2. Speak differently. Keep a rein on my tongue so that it doesn’t inflict damage.
3. Spend my money differently. What are my priorities – my stuff, or my God?
4. Use my time differently. If I’m going to have a relationship with God, I need to spend time with God. Sitting in church once a week isn’t enough. (Or as one of my friends put it, “Sitting in a church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than standing in your garage makes you a car.”)
Time, money, words, and deeds. Those are some big-ticket items right there. Of course, eternal salvation through Jesus Christ is pretty big, too. As 2018 draws to a close, and we get ready to celebrate an arbitrarily-chosen endpoint to another trip around the sun (i.e., New Year’s), I hope I can show the people around me something about my relationship with Jesus – through what I do and say on a daily basis. It’s a tall order, but “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13)
And that’s a pretty good guide for life … and how I should live it.